I’m navigating new parenthood as a bereaved parent, and boy am I in pieces. Having lost our first son three years ago, I’m still learning to live life with grief as a companion. I expected that, and know I’ll always be tending to new layers of grief as life evolves. What I didn’t anticipate were … More Finding Peace, In Pieces
Think about the first time you meet someone. Naturally, you seek commonalities so you resort to questions about where they live, about their job, and about their family. But sometimes seemingly simple questions can be the most difficult to answer. For loss parents, it’s the family-oriented ones that are complicated. How many times have you asked … More Simple Question. Complicated Answer.
Leaving a doctor’s appointment last week, I scurried to my car in flip flops and huddled under a light jacket in attempt to dodge the puddles and raindrops that were quickly forming. Just an hour prior it had only been drizzling, so I was not prepared for the sudden and unexpected downpour. Yet somehow I … More Thinking Beyond the Storm
Surprise! It’s… grief?! Wait… No… That’s not right… It’s a boy!! But why is grief popping in during our happy gender reveal? I wasn’t expecting a reveal within a reveal, but that’s exactly what happened. Let me start from the beginning… I had no idea what to anticipate with our current pregnancy given that … More Surprise! It's… grief?
You Are What You Speak: A Contemporary Take on Pregnancy & Infant Loss By Skyler Grubbs & Emily Plahanski As part of our healing, the best way we know how to honor our babies is by sharing. That’s why it’s so important for us to keep sharing our views through our newly altered lenses as … More You Are What You Speak
This was our first major holiday without our son and dare I say we enjoyed it? How? Before I get to that, you have to know what the week before was like to have a full appreciation of the outcome. Eight days prior to Thanksgiving, I assured my counselor I would not need a session … More Thankful
I preface this entire post with this: I am not formally credentialed to be advising anyone through grief. Having only lost a few significant people in my life, death and grief are actually unnatural topics for me. With that said, I’ve been wanting to write about emotional triggers and offer informal advice for anyone who, … More Triggers